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July’s Great Truth About You: I AM LOVING!

July 1, 2014 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott
 

July's Great Truth About You is I AM LOVING

July’s Great Truth About You is I AM LOVING

It’s JULY!! And that means, it’s time for a new Great Truth About You! This is a special month because it represents a full year of This Stuff’s Working Coaching guiding you on this journey to discover…no…REMEMBER, the best things that are good and true about you! We restart the cycle with July’s Great Truth About You: I AM LOVING! Yes it’s true!!! 

I am loving. 
I love. 
I am loved. 
I am love. 
I love me. 
I love you. 
You love me. 
Love me. 
Love you.
Love.
I am loving. 

With this comes the return of KL’s Love Notes to social media! I’m excited to get them before new eyes and teach more people how to manifest the relationship they seek and find their equal in love and in life. 

Finally, look for a Love Quote of the day across my social networks and let’s have some good conversations about what it means to love and BE loving. 

Have I told you I love you today? (I love you.) Have you? Get to it! 

 
With Great Love,
 
Coach KishaLynn
 

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KL’s LoveNotes #28: Don’t Stop, Don’t Give Up, Don’t Quit

July 31, 2013 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 28 Dont Stop Dont Give Up Dont Quit

Persistence is the #1 element to success in any goal, including manifesting love. If you give up on the plan and process of attracting the love you want, then it gives up on you. Don’t. Give. Up.

Even if you fail at first, or tenth.

Even if it’s hard.

Even if it’s taking longer than you’d hoped.

Don’t stop. 

Don’t give up. 

Don’t quit. 

If you want to take a break, take a break. If you don’t want to look proactively, that’s fine. There’s all kind of paths that can lead to love. No one said you had to remain on one in particular. Just keep your heart open to what you want to receive. 

The bottom line is to still and always hold in your mind (where all things, including love, are created) genuine desire for and belief in the love you want.

Don’t ever, ever, ever give up. There is always more love and more to love.

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This post concludes this series of KL’s LoveNotes. If you followed the series, I hope it added value to your vision of love for your life. If any of these spoke to you, or worked for you, please reach out and let me know.

KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #27: Take Karali’s Online Dating Advice

- Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 27 Take Karalis Online Dating Advice

 

I know online dating is huge these days. A study by researchers in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences says that more than 1/3 of marriages in the U.S. begin with online dating

So, what kind of relationship coach would I be if I didn’t offer at least one LoveNote around online dating strategies?

Every one of my LoveNotes so far has been crafted and shared from my heart, and from my personal experience. I’ve applied all of them in my own life, and have created an extraordinary and lasting love with my partner of seven years and my wife of five. We didn’t meet online. Our meeting was just one of those right place, right time things that happened to me after I implemented the very same tips I’ve shared in these LoveNotes.

But, in April 2013, fate arranged for me to be soaking in a hot tub with a delightful woman who had recently found the love of her life online. Her name is Karali. She was sharing some of the lessons she’d learned from years of online dating. She said she had it down to a science. I asked her for permission to share some of her insights and she said yes! So, with no further ado, I bring you:

Karali’s Online Dating Advice 

1. Don’t judge a profile by its picture. Go only by what they wrote and only see whose profile or letter reflects something you clearly have in common. Pictures are basically projections of what we think we see anyway.

2. Don’t invest a lot of time in prolonged email exchanges. Set up a phone conversation after just three or so emails. This helps prevent building people up in your mind and ending up disillusioned.

3. Consider anyone who is a strong writer, who has something interesting about them, who has things in common with you. It helps to consider a WIDE variety of types of people online. I believed that that my mind didn’t hold all the answers here.

4. Just because you consider a wide variety doesn’t mean you invest time in meeting each person. Again, screen them on the phone. After 15-30 mins talking, you can generally tell very clearly if there is a vibe between you. For me, if they talked too much, were argumentative (or made me feel argumentative), only talked about concrete events (as opposed to what they learned), then it was clear it wasn’t a good match.

5. After the phone conversation there is a decision point. You’ll now how you feel from talking to them. If you don’t like them and they ask you on a date, the kindest thing to do is to tell them in a gentle way that you feel it’s not a good match. Thank them for spending the time speaking with you.

6. If you need it, take the time to think about it. Say you want to digest the conversation and think about it and you will write them back soon. Don’t rush. Don’t feel pressure to please. Even if it was a pleasant conversation and you don’t want to hurt their feelings, it’s much more kind to be clear upfront than to leave them wondering. Though daring and awkward, anyway you slice it, weeding out the Nos is part of the process.

7. Trust your gut and your heart. You don’t need to look into their eyes to feel what opens up in a conversation. However, you don’t always know while on the phone. It might take a day or two after a conversation to get a feeling. Keep your head out of this. It takes some time and experience to get good at being open to a broader spectrum while also being able to trust your instincts.

8. If you feel excited about someone, even at the email stage, consider putting off other suitors until you thoroughly check out your main interest. Energetically, it can be difficult to keep up multiple conversations.

9. Online dating can be a bit of a roller-coaster, and even disillusioning at times. Try your best to keep your emotions and hormones in check to avoid multiple disappointments.

10. Meeting in person takes a lot of energy. Save it for the ones you’ve really screened. Then, be open to meeting lovely people and having positive experiences, even if you know they aren’t going to be serious relationships. Be game for learning through having fun with someone.

If online dating is your strategy of choice, then happy surfing and let me know how it goes! 

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #26: Use Your Resources

- Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 26 Use Your Resources

 

If you’re serious about finding true love as soon as possible, then you’re gonna have to use your resources. This is easier with an actual plan for love in place that thinks through some of the relevant resources you possess, including: 

Financial Resources: How much money can you invest on related expenses such as clothing, social activities, online dating site membership fees, working with a life coach, etc?

Time Resources: How much time can you commit each day/week/month to implementing your plan, going on dates, etc. What are some ways you can leverage your time resources more effectively to increase your chances of being exposed to your ideal partner?

People Resources: Do you want to involve others in this process? Is there someone of interest that you want to connect with? People are your best resource in this process–build relationships, and as appropriate, tap into them to explore and create better options for yourself. If you choose to let people know what you are seeking, they’ll automatically start scanning their mental Rolodex to find it, or keep their eyes tuned for it.

Information Resources: These can be used to fill your life with opportunities for love. There is so much you can learn, online and off. Research things do to. Find specific people to meet. Discover new places to go. Study the art of flirting, dating, loving, and building a strong, healthy, lasting relationship or marriage.

You are working on attracting here. Attraction is a give and take. You are creating more of what you want, taking it into your life in alignment with what you ask for, and what you give in return. Use your resources to your full advantage. That’s what they are there for.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #25: Don’t Settle For Less

July 30, 2013 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 25 Dont Settle For Less

 

Your desires and your plan for love can certainly be flexible. They will change and evolve as you are ever doing the same.

Beware the difference though between deciding you want something different/better, and settling for less because you believe your standards are “too high”. The point is to get what you want, even if the end result looks very different from the starting vision.

Instinct will tell you one way or another–the emotions involved in this process are subjective. That’s why your feelings are your best compass. Trust them and trust yourself. If you ignore/override the feeling that what is in front of you isn’t what you want, and settle out of desperation, you could be setting yourself up for far more misery and heartbreak. You deserve better.

Build love for yourself strong enough to be chosen over options that fall drastically short of your ideal. You’ll be happier that way. 

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #24: Celebrate The Journey To Love

- Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 24 Celebrate The Journey To Love

 

Being single can seem arduous, unless you know where to look for the joy. Rejoice in the fascinating elements of life and love that make the whole journey worthwhile.

Celebrate your uniqueness. You don’t need to be like anyone else to create the love you want in your life. Think about it. Do you want a partner that’s just like everyone else? Wouldn’t that be boring?

Celebrate the uniqueness of others. Just like you’re putting yourself out there, others are doing the same. While they won’t all offer the love you’re seeking, you can learn to value and appreciate everyone for what they brought to your life for a moment.

Celebrate the victories. The calls, the dates, the experiences are all signs of your success that will lead to the achievement of your actual desire. Romantic love is nearer to you than ever.

Go ahead and start the party now. Count it all good and find joy and gratitude in every experience on this journey. Doing so will help you embrace what you’ve learned, affirm and motivate you to keep going until the love you want has manifested.
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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #23: Write A Welcome Letter To Love

- Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 23 Write A Welcome Letter To Love

 This is another visualization exercise designed to put you in the powerful feeling place of having the love you want now.

Grab a piece of paper or a blank screen, and write a letter, welcoming the love you desire into your life. Use present tense language. No one will ever see it unless you decide to share it later and even then you can edit it. So, just let go and allow the words to flow from within you.

Express gratitude that this love has arrived. Write about your hopes and dreams for what you will accomplish together in this love. Share your joy and let the love know that it is so, so welcome in your life. Make commitments to care for that love, and ask to be cared for in return.

When your letter is done, sign it with your heart. Then, use it as a meditation tool over the coming days. Read and revise it regularly. It should generate tons of allowing emotional energy for you.

Know that when you practice this technique, you aren’t just playing worthless make-believe.

Rather, you are making what you believe through the creative process that is thought.

That’s the power you possess. Use it.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #22: Don’t Give Your Treasures Away To Everyone

July 29, 2013 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 22 Dont Give Your Treasures Away To Everyone

Save something for your one true love. Whatever your “something” is. You decide.

Before I met the love of my life, I decided that kissing would be my treasure. Even though I love a great kiss, it motivated me to know that the next lips that touched mine would belong to true love. I know this won’t work for everyone, so it’s just an example.

If you completely open your heart, body, mind, and other treasures to any and everyone, they may lack a certain luster when you’re ready to share them with the one that’s meant to receive them all.

What would you like to reserve exclusively for your one true love?

Maybe you save something physical.

Maybe it’s something emotional.

Maybe it’s something tangible, like access to your home.

Maybe it’s meeting the family.

Maybe it’s a part of your story.

Cherish yourself. Decide what your treasure is, then lock it away while you hit the dating scene. You’ll know when you find the one that deserves the key.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #21: Set Goals and Create A Plan For Love

July 26, 2013 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 21 Set Goals And Create A Plan For Love

 

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

This quote is POWERFULLY TRUE. If you’ve been sitting around wanting love (or anything else), but you haven’t actually put a plan in place to achieve and receive it, then your desire is little more than a wish.

Wishful thinking is fine for birthday candles, wishbones, and shooting stars. But when it comes to your one true love, if you really want it, and you’re really ready for it, then it’s time to set some goals and create a plan to get it.

Establishing a dating plan or a love plan doesn’t need to be as stuffy and formal as it seems. It’s simply about deciding on a few measurable outcomes for yourself, then working towards accomplishing them over a set period of time. This way, you know you’re actually DOING SOMETHING to get what you want instead of waiting around waiting for it to show up (and complaining about its absence).

Here are a few goals you might want to think through as you establish your plan. I’ve included some sample targets for each for demonstration purposes only. But, feel free to adopt or adapt them if they feel right for you: 

How many dates do you want to go on?
SAMPLE: At least 1 date every two weeks for the next 3 months.

How many new people/friends would you like to meet?
SAMPLE: At least 3 new connections over the next 3 months.

How many activities will you join/do/try out?
SAMPLE: At least 2 social activities per month for the next 3 months.

How many online dating sites will you join/try out?
SAMPLE: At least 2 completed profiles on different sites. 

How much time will you devote each day/week/month to this goal? 
SAMPLE: At least one hour a week specifically focused on working this plan.

What will the results of this plan be if successful?
SAMPLE: More vibrant social life; regularly dating people with shared interests; greater self-confidence; more clarity around desires; viable candidates for long-term relationships

How long will you work this plan before assessing its effectiveness? 
SAMPLE: Review and assess progress at least once per month.

Again, this is just a sample plan. You may have different goals and targets. You might want to move faster than three months, or slower. You might not want to do online dating, and prefer to take one of many other paths that could lead to love…it’s all up to you.

The important part is to make the plan, then work the plan, and rework the plan until the plan works.

I’ve created a signature Law of Attraction based system called the D.R.E.A.M. Plan which takes you through five essential steps to creating a comprehensive manifestation plan for any burning desire. To learn more about it, check out my bestselling e-book: A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! Get ready to make a Love D.R.E.A.M. come true.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to find their equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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KL’s LoveNotes #20: Be Ready

July 25, 2013 - Author: KishaLynn Elliott

Kls Lovenote 20 Be Ready

There are good times and bad times to date. Here are a few ways to tell that romantic love might not be your highest priority at the moment:

-You’re still in another unhappy relationship.
-You’re fresh out of another relationship/marriage.
-You’re in recovery.
-You’re in the closet.
-You’re grieving or mourning loss.
-Something else is needing/demanding your full attention for a short/fixed period of time.

If you are in any of these situations, I want to be clear that I am NOT saying that you can’t get or have the love you want in your life. Some people in these situations do find true love at the same time. Anything is possible. Besides, you can and will overcome all of these and other obstacles to romantic love.

I just want you to consider the value of being fully ready to give and receive romantic love. It’s important to acknowledge how challenging it is to devote your mind, spirit and heart to someone else when there’s so much you still need to take care of within, or without, in your life.

If you realize you aren’t ready, then giving up isn’t the answer. Getting ready is. Go through what you need to go through. Do what you need to do. Get the help you need to get. Do so carrying true belief in the love you seek in your heart and mind always. It may just take some time.

One of my favorite quotes is by Earl Nightingale: “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

Time will pass. Choose to get closer and closer to love as it does. Be ready.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

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