Still talking about the date from hell that occurred months or even years ago?

Still feeling resentment towards that ex-lover or spouse?

Do yourself and your love life a huge favor, right now.

Forgive. Let the bad story go. If you can’t do it for the other person, do it for yourself.

When you hold on to the anger, the pain, the trauma, the drama, it remains a thought in your mind. Thoughts become things. The feelings around those thoughts are very powerful energy. Like attracts like.

I understand. You suffered! You lost! You were hurt/abused/abandoned/lied to/cheated on/stolen from/fill-in-the-blank love-gone-wrong horror story. It was bad!! It sucked!! It hurt!! Your anger is real, and even justifiable.

But, here’s a question:

Do you want pity or do you want true love?

If you want true love, then you must forgive. Forgive them. Forgive yourself.

No one said forget. Everything happens for a reason. Even the worst circumstances from your past can serve your highest good. It just requires a shift in perspective to appreciation for what your experienced taught you about yourself, about others, and about the world. Appreciative reflection, rather than resentful recollection, opens the door for you to learn and grow.

What would happen if you chose to forgive right now? What might come of you letting that story go?

I’m no psychic, but here’s what I know might happen.

You might get a new story. 

That story might have a happy ending.

I know promises are more motivating than “might”, so here’s a promise you can take to the bank:

You will definitely be more free. Free to love and be loved. Isn’t that what you want?

If so, then take a deep breath right now. Fill your lungs to capacity, then hold it for a second or two. 

Now, exhale slowly. As you do, attach to that breath the name of an ex, a past lover, a bad date. Release them with forgiveness as you breathe out and let the story go with it.

Repeat this until you’ve taken multiple breathes representing each of those ghosts and horror stories from your past. 

Forgiving does far more for you than it does for the person(s) you are forgiving. Try it, reap the benefits, and get ready for the love you deserve.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.