Ahhh, the fine art of flirting! It’s a skill that anyone–YES ANYONE–can (and should) acquire. Even if/when you’re not single anymore, flirting can help keep the love flames burning. So, if you don’t know how to flirt–LEARN. If you do know how to flirt–DO IT!

What is flirting?

Well, none of the “dictionary” definitions really do it for me, so here’s my very own:

Flirting is the friendly act of communicating interest in another person.

You can flirt verbally with words/compliments.

You can flirt non-verbally with facial expressions using your eyes and mouth or by using your body language–how you sit, stand, hold your arms, etc.

You can flirt in writing. 

You can flirt in ways that engage the five senses: using images, sounds, taste, scent and touch if and when appropriate.

There are truly so many delicious and fun ways to flirt. 

Flirting gets a bad rap because some interpret it to be overtly sexual in nature. Not so.

While there definitely IS a way to flirt sexually, my emphasis is more on friendly interest. The desired outcome is not necessarily sex, or even love. The outcome to communicate interest. That covers a range of desires from:
-Establishing eye contact
-Getting a smile or a compliment
-Having a conversation
-Spending time with someone in a casual or dating setting
-OK, yes you can be interested in sex too. 😉

So, who should you flirt with? Well, if you’re trying to cultivate the skill and art of flirting, then here’s one bold strategy:

FLIRT WITH EVERYONE!

Before you think I’m nuts (or worse), remember my definition of flirting: a friendly act of communicating interest in another person. So, to flirt with everyone, you really work on being more interested in and curious about others, and finding ways to communicate that interest in a friendly way. As always, use your common sense and don’t do anything that would compromise your core values or tarnish your reputation. Beyond that though, flirt away! 

As you hone and develop this skill, you’ll learn to tune in to the people who hold your interest for romance, dating and love. By then, you’ll be a flirting expert, and sparks will fly when your path crosses with The One.

If you need more help becoming a master flirt, SUPERFLIRT by Tracey Cox is an excellent resource. (Disclosure: I am an Amazon Affiliate, so if you buy the book through this link, I may get a couple cents in my bank account. And that’s a good thing.) 

Fly along and flirt my friends. As they say, there’s nothing to it but to do it. 

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.