When was the last time you went on a really great date (or a really bad one, for that matter)?

Well, I can guarantee that your next first date is going to be with a TOTAL winner. Because the person you’ll be dating, is YOU.

You might be thinking, “I’m already single and spend enough time alone. That’s my problem!” But this isn’t a ForeverAlone activity of the loser variety. This is a visualization exercise that will increase your confidence and put you in the feeling place of having what you want now. The solution to the “problem” of spending time alone is learning to enjoy yourself more. 

Approach it from that perspective and you’ll be ready to hit the town with your first true love–yourself.

So, where are you going?
What will you wear? Dress and make yourself up like you would for the date with “the one”.

You can even buy yourself some flowers, if that’s what you’d like or expect from dating someone else.

Take yourself where you’d like to be taken. Do what you’d like to do, whether it’s something adventurous, romantic, a combination of the two or something else.

And to the greatest extent possible–ENJOY YOURSELF. You can also use some healthy imagination on your date-visualizing your perfect companion and generating the feelings of fun, joy, love, and any other allowing emotional energy. If this feels silly at first, just remember this: All things are created in the mind first. You are not just playing make-believe. Don’t let that be the feeling behind it. This is creation in progress. 

After your great first date with you, take stock in how you feel, and let it be a standard for every date you go on from now on. If you don’t enjoy spending time with someone else MORE THAN (not as much as, but MORE THAN) you enjoy spending time with yourself, then that could be a signal to keep moving. 

You can do this over and over if you’d like. There’s a saying that goes that love only finds you when you stop looking for it. Wouldn’t it be great if you were able to enjoy yourself so much that love had to come find you–and when it did, you were somewhere having the time of your life? Allow it to happen by trying.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.