Your desires and your plan for love can certainly be flexible. They will change and evolve as you are ever doing the same.

Beware the difference though between deciding you want something different/better, and settling for less because you believe your standards are “too high”. The point is to get what you want, even if the end result looks very different from the starting vision.

Instinct will tell you one way or another–the emotions involved in this process are subjective. That’s why your feelings are your best compass. Trust them and trust yourself. If you ignore/override the feeling that what is in front of you isn’t what you want, and settle out of desperation, you could be setting yourself up for far more misery and heartbreak. You deserve better.

Build love for yourself strong enough to be chosen over options that fall drastically short of your ideal. You’ll be happier that way. 

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.