If you’re serious about finding true love as soon as possible, then you’re gonna have to use your resources. This is easier with an actual plan for love in place that thinks through some of the relevant resources you possess, including: 

Financial Resources: How much money can you invest on related expenses such as clothing, social activities, online dating site membership fees, working with a life coach, etc?

Time Resources: How much time can you commit each day/week/month to implementing your plan, going on dates, etc. What are some ways you can leverage your time resources more effectively to increase your chances of being exposed to your ideal partner?

People Resources: Do you want to involve others in this process? Is there someone of interest that you want to connect with? People are your best resource in this process–build relationships, and as appropriate, tap into them to explore and create better options for yourself. If you choose to let people know what you are seeking, they’ll automatically start scanning their mental Rolodex to find it, or keep their eyes tuned for it.

Information Resources: These can be used to fill your life with opportunities for love. There is so much you can learn, online and off. Research things do to. Find specific people to meet. Discover new places to go. Study the art of flirting, dating, loving, and building a strong, healthy, lasting relationship or marriage.

You are working on attracting here. Attraction is a give and take. You are creating more of what you want, taking it into your life in alignment with what you ask for, and what you give in return. Use your resources to your full advantage. That’s what they are there for.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

Save something for your one true love. Whatever your “something” is. You decide.

Before I met the love of my life, I decided that kissing would be my treasure. Even though I love a great kiss, it motivated me to know that the next lips that touched mine would belong to true love. I know this won’t work for everyone, so it’s just an example.

If you completely open your heart, body, mind, and other treasures to any and everyone, they may lack a certain luster when you’re ready to share them with the one that’s meant to receive them all.

What would you like to reserve exclusively for your one true love?

Maybe you save something physical.

Maybe it’s something emotional.

Maybe it’s something tangible, like access to your home.

Maybe it’s meeting the family.

Maybe it’s a part of your story.

Cherish yourself. Decide what your treasure is, then lock it away while you hit the dating scene. You’ll know when you find the one that deserves the key.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

When was the last time you went on a really great date (or a really bad one, for that matter)?

Well, I can guarantee that your next first date is going to be with a TOTAL winner. Because the person you’ll be dating, is YOU.

You might be thinking, “I’m already single and spend enough time alone. That’s my problem!” But this isn’t a ForeverAlone activity of the loser variety. This is a visualization exercise that will increase your confidence and put you in the feeling place of having what you want now. The solution to the “problem” of spending time alone is learning to enjoy yourself more. 

Approach it from that perspective and you’ll be ready to hit the town with your first true love–yourself.

So, where are you going?
What will you wear? Dress and make yourself up like you would for the date with “the one”.

You can even buy yourself some flowers, if that’s what you’d like or expect from dating someone else.

Take yourself where you’d like to be taken. Do what you’d like to do, whether it’s something adventurous, romantic, a combination of the two or something else.

And to the greatest extent possible–ENJOY YOURSELF. You can also use some healthy imagination on your date-visualizing your perfect companion and generating the feelings of fun, joy, love, and any other allowing emotional energy. If this feels silly at first, just remember this: All things are created in the mind first. You are not just playing make-believe. Don’t let that be the feeling behind it. This is creation in progress. 

After your great first date with you, take stock in how you feel, and let it be a standard for every date you go on from now on. If you don’t enjoy spending time with someone else MORE THAN (not as much as, but MORE THAN) you enjoy spending time with yourself, then that could be a signal to keep moving. 

You can do this over and over if you’d like. There’s a saying that goes that love only finds you when you stop looking for it. Wouldn’t it be great if you were able to enjoy yourself so much that love had to come find you–and when it did, you were somewhere having the time of your life? Allow it to happen by trying.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

Just like you’re not perfect, neither will be your ideal partner. There’s gonna be more than a few downsides to any person. It’s human nature to have flaws.

Does this mean you lower your standards and grab the first person breathing who smiles back? Heck no.

Does it mean that you accept that your one true love may be a 4.5 on a 5 point scale? Possibly.

You should have a clear sense of EXACTLY what you what in and from your next relationship. But also acknowledge that some of those criteria are weighted more heavily than others. You’re looking for compatibility over perfection. 

As you begin to manifest viable prospects for dating and love, take a look at what’s right about them, and what’s missing. Then, let your heart and brain have a little chat about what you truly feel. In the end, you’ll be loving a whole person–including their flaws. They’ll be doing the same with you.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.

Take a self-inventory and call out everything you are bringing to the table in your next relationship. Think through the following:

• What do you love most about yourself?

• What do others love about you?

• What are your most attractive physical features?

• What are the top three benefits that the love of your life will enjoy?

This inventory serves multiple purposes:

-It gets you feeling good about yourself. Because c’mon–you’re freaking awesome!

-Like attracts like according to the Law of Attraction, so you get clarity on what type of person you are best poised to easily manifest in your life.

-If you are clear on everything you’re bringing to your next relationship, you’re less likely to settle for less than what you’re worth.

-If you choose to try online dating, you’ve got a GREAT head start on writing your profile.

Confidence is sexy and self-awareness is essential. If you know your merits and polish them to a shiny finish, your dream love may notice you from a mile away without you even having to “search”.

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KishaLynn Elliott is a coach, inspirational speaker, and author of the bestselling e-book A D.R.E.A.M. Comes True: 5 Steps to Planning and Creating Your Personal Success Story NOW! She teaches single lesbians to Find Your Equal in love and in life. If you are ready for true love, schedule a free initial consultation and let’s work together…to get her.